Conflict—a condition in which a person experiences a clash of opposing wishes or needs.
Whether sporadic, long-standing or recent, most of us would rather avoid than engage. There are those who love to engage, knowing most will not and, by default, they “win” in the short term while eroding the relationship. Over time conflict, left unaddressed, festers and grows to a point where one party seeks to separate from the relationship, be it business, marital, family or personal.
Avoidance, as opposed to engagement, seems easier than addressing the issue or issues at hand. All along this road the differences, left alone, can grow to a point of no return or seemingly so. One or both of the parties are helpless to address the conflict between themselves, yet in most cases, neither enjoys the struggle. So there they are, stuck in a situation that is ever deteriorating with no “fair” way out.
Everyone experiences conflict at some point in their lives. What we do with it makes a difference. The conflict itself is usually a symptom of the real issue that needs to be addressed. Working thru conflict to the issue does not need to be done alone. Seeking professional help through your church, clinical professionals or a trusted advisor can greatly increase the ability to reconcile differences and preserve the relationship. Both parties can then contribute towards a solution while working with a person who can facilitate the discussion.
Do not make the mistake of thinking “it” will go away. Be proactive and seek out help whether it is a business or personal situation.